How Do I Help My Child Improve Attention and Concentration
Does your child spend too much energy avoiding what they need to get done? Do they complain that their work is too boring, or do they seem frustrated and overwhelmed because tasks seem too daunting and they are falling more and more behind? Perhaps they have even said they wish they could concentrate better, but they don't know how.
First, let's communicate to them that they are not alone in this and that you want to help them find what works best for them. One size does not fit all, and it helps to slow things down so there is breathing room to prioritize what is important to focus on first. It is okay to tackle one thing at a time, and together, you can determine where it makes the most sense to start.
As a pediatric therapist for the past three decades and as a step-parent of children who struggled with this very topic, I have made some observations and learned from both mistakes and successes along the way. I will share some of those revelations and tips with you. Some may speak to you, so run with those, and some may not so discard those or tuck them away for later use. I refer to this as "Big Picture Thinking."
Be aware and accept that you will make mistakes, and not only is that okay, but that offers you learning opportunities you may not have otherwise had.
As a parent figure, try to see your child for who they are, not for who you were or what you would like them to be - this is easier said than done, and you can do it.
Realize that you may unknowingly be placing expectations on your child that are creating excessive amounts of stress, and they may feel trapped or overwhelmed to the point of shutting down altogether and not being able to tell you what the cause is.
Give yourself and your child permission to slow down and take a step back. Get off the treadmill and set your own pace because society often imposes timelines and pressures that don't hold much value in the big scheme of life.
Recognize and be honest with yourself if you are enabling your child to avoid what is necessary for them to face or if you are giving them the grace to pause and breathe.
Look for support that fits your family rather than what the Joneses' are doing. Meet with providers first yourself before having your child meet them. Listen to your gut, and be discerning. Only some approaches suit your child and family best, but it is worth finding what does.
Only after the stress decreases to a manageable level, is it appropriate to introduce routines that can improve attention and concentration.
Improving attention and concentration requires consistent effort over time, and the steps or approaches will vary from child to child. By creating a supportive environment, you can assist your child to develop resourcefulness and effective skills that will serve them well throughout their lives. Each child is unique, so interventions, adaptations, and accommodations need to suit your child's individual needs.
The field of occupational therapy is well suited to address attention and concentration through activities that are meaningful and preferred occupations for each individual. Call or email us to schedule a visit.
